On Friendships and Relationships

Sometimes I think we can get on the wrong foot when it comes to how we form and maintain relationships and as males we tend not to be so good at it, perhaps because few cared to show us how.

Focus is a main thing.

Are we wishing to be someones friend or lead others in activities or play for how that may make us appear in the eyes of the wider world, a favourable comment or an attempt to be seen as a leader as if it is about us?

I feel when it comes to motivation being less concerned around that but looking more what we can offer others and from that what we may gain from that - seeing others happy, having fun can be enough

There are things we need to be mindful of,

This speaks volumes to me.

We can get so fixated on solving problems, righting wrongs that we feel we are not making a difference to someone we care about but just being there, walking along side them is really what we need to be doing more.

When you care for some one you just do.

We love them for what they have to offer rather than what wemay feel our needs are.

When was it we last told them we love them?

Do it.

Feel it.

Show it.

Above all, Say it.

Catching the bus

These three boys look pretty smart waiting for their bus to Prep School but in my area recently things have got a bit complicated with changes in the local bus services that do not appear to have been thought through.
Until recently all the services through our estate went from one common bus stop going clockwise or counter clockwise before continuing on but recent changes have some outbound services going opposite the bus stop with no indication of where you are to alight from.
Moreover it is on the end of a bus road junction as it joins the major A road where 'the powers that be' as I know from my 'adult' roles in the past were less than keen on having a bus stop.
We shall see if a new stop is put or changes made to the routes the next time I go out in my black school shorts, socks and white shirt!

I think I'll lay across the floor knees on carpet and play with this in the meantime as one of things I really loved to do as a boy was to drive things like toy cars and buses on imaginary journeys with people to whom I created something of a back story of.
This meant they'd be getting on and off for different things like shopping in the market square, going to school or work or taking a young child out for the day, stopping at the park.
It was like whole world I'd created.
Before I forget I'd like to thank everyone who read the blog last week, has followed the Tumblr all in the first week of going live and add I've helping dad out as he's a bit off his feet presently and we all know how important dads are to boys.
Next week I'll have something around age regression up on this blog.